We always question ourselves why we havent found the right one? Why is it so hard for people to love us? Will i ever found my other half? Is there such thing as true love? Why does love hurts?
There are many kinds of love out there. For example, i love my sister! Or, i love the colour of your dress! Or, i love my boyfriend. I want to make love to you. It can be a verb of a noun. The complications of English i must say. In all context anyhow, the “love” happens when an individual takes very strong interest in another individual or living thing (e.g. a pet or a plant) or an object.
Well, my definition of love is, love is a feeling, an emotion. It happens when 2 people finds attraction in one another, and they feel an attachment to each other. When you are in love, everything else doesn’t seem to matter. It feels as though as your life just revolves around them, and all you want to do is hang out with them all the time. And whatever choices or plans you make, you take them into considerations. It’s not a must, but it just so happen to be. Love is when you admire everything about them, and looking pass their flaws. You like they way they dress, how they look, they way they talk, almost everything in fact. It seems like there is this person in your mind now as you are reading this, and that person you are thinking of, they don’t seem to have much or any flaws at all. Even if they have, you appreciate their positive side instead of the negative ones. We are not perfect.
Being in love makes you feel vulnerable. You allow them to step into your life. You wake up without them by your side and it feels like half of you is gone. Life still goes on of course, you have to wake up, maybe skip your breakfast cause there’s no appetite. then head to work, but have double lunch cause you’re hungry….. and it goes on.
The 2 famous quotes floating around social media and the internet, that has caught my eyes, in the recent years is by Liam Neeson, “Everyone say love hurts, but that is not true. Loneliness hurts. Rejection hurts. Losing someone hurts. Envy hurts. Everyone gets these things confused with love, but in reality, love is the only thing in this world the overs up all the pain and makes someone feel wonderful again. Love is the only thing in this world that does not hurt.” Also, by the famous Osho, “If you love a flower, don’t pick it up. Because if you pick it up it dies and ceases to what you love. So if you love a flower, let it be. Love is not about possession. Love is about appreciation.” Then again, how upsetting and hurt would it be to not be together with the person you love.
I found my love, on Tinder, not surprising actually. I met so many people who have successful relationships by meeting online. You pretty much just narrow down the options at a shorter span. Anyway, i remembered a couple of months ago my sister attended a wedding, and she told mum and i that her friend met his wife for less than 3 or 6 months and decide to get married. My mum said “when he saw her he knew she’s the one”.
I never really believe in love at first sight. I’d much rather say at attraction at first sight, cause you’ll never really or truly know what the person is like at a first glance. I mean, you have got to know what a person is like before you date them right?
I knew i found the one after the first week i met him. It’s all the time too right? I remember my counsellor once said to me that if it’s the right person but wrong time it’s still the wrong person. I was lucky have met him, and had the opportunity to hang out with him for many days. The words he said, the things we do, all words with actions. We were different in some ways, but very alike in many. It was like a dream came true. 2 people from different countries met at another country and got together and relocate to another country. It seems like a fairy tale, but this time, im in it. From that instant, there’s no i, but we, us. I see a future, between the 2 of us. It’s us against the world. He’s my other half, i cannot imagine life without him. Everything i think of, travelling, sports, movies, making new friends, and all i can think about is sharing the experience with him. The next step is the long distance we have to overcome. Love conquers all right?
Until then. I love you Alex. x