I have been visiting the counsellor recently due to the amount of stress im under in regards to work, studies, life, career, everything actually, just to talk shit to someone. I don’t know if it’s weird to think like that but you know how sometimes you just want to vent out your anger, sadness or happiness and you want to talk to someone, but then your friends does not seem appropriate enough to talk to?
Anyway, i want to share a couple of things that i’ve learnt from my counsellor on my last session. It’s quite a huge topic so im gonna split into different parts. So, we were talking about how stressful our society has become, the expectations we give ourselves, the importance of excelling in every aspect of our life. There’s a saying in chinese “只许成功不许失败”, which direct translates to “only succeed, no failure”. In addition, with advance technology existing in our modern world, we humans, are greatly affected and influenced by social media, that is caused by something called “social acceptance” which then leads to stress, etc. This evil cycle of life is what every single human being has to go through.
Social acceptance is a term referring to the ability to accept one’s thoughts, lifestyle, preference, etc. It is what people perceived as being normal. It is when most people do similar things together in order to fit into one’s life so they can be judged as normal. An example, almost everyone is the whole world has a Facebook account (a social media platform in case anyone don’t know which i highly doubt so), and when a person says that he doesn’t have an account on Facebook, people will think he’s weird, he’s not normal. Something like that, it’s a bad example but i hope you understand what im trying to say.
Yeap, so social acceptance is what i consider the root of all evil. If you’re different from a group of people, you’re outcast. You find many quotes online about “be who you are and not what others want you to be”, look below:
“Don’t you ever let a soul in the world tell you that you can’t be exactly who you are.”
― Lady Gaga
“Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and it’s better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.”
― Marilyn Monroe
“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
― Oscar Wilde
BUT! The reality is not that easy. There are these constant negative remarks and comments given by all these other random individuals which then leads you to having negative thought in your head, and all these negativity becomes overwhelmed and kinda overtakes your whole mind and soul and you just feel so sick of and tired of life and just wishes that you can just lead your life “normal”, here again, where social acceptance comes in, i.e. having a good job, work, eat, sleep, survive then probably die when you’re 80 years old. Then probably by the age of 79 when you know you’re probably gonna die in a year’s time then you asked yourself why wasn’t i adventurous enough.
Im gonna stop here for now, have a think about what you want in life, dream big, peace out.